Do you want to know what is the first step in learning how to make people love and respect you? Improve your communication skills!
We can thank our communication skills for all our connections and the way we interact with people. When we fail to convey our feelings, our instructions or our basic interests, we cannot expect to make strong connections. This can prevent us from getting ahead at work, deepening our friendships and much more.
Here are 5 ways to strengthen your communication skills in your personal and professional life:
1. Don’t ramble while speaking
Being eloquent goes a long way. When we communicate with people, we want to be understood the first time, not the second or third time. Choose words wisely instead of rambling and using words without purpose. Be brief but specific and dispense with unnecessary words. All of this will help you in public speaking and also in small talk.
2. Treat people with respect
Treating others with respect may seem like an obvious way to be appreciated. However, sometimes we lose respect for others, especially when emotions run high. If you learn to be kind to others, even in difficult times, you will become more likable.
For example, if you are firing someone or having a difficult conversation at work, do it in private. Or, if someone is busy and you need help with a work project, you can respect their time by not interrupting them unless it is absolutely urgent. Everyone in your life will appreciate your ability to choose the right place and context to communicate.
3. Know when to stop and listen
An important part of communication is actively listening to what the other person has to say. Communication is not a one-way street. A good listener listens carefully, asks probing questions, and gives the other person his or her full attention.
These habits show people that we are interested in what they have to say. Today we are constantly distracted by social media, texting and so on. If you become a better listener, you will stand out and succeed in pleasing others more.
4. Proofread written messages
We all make grammatical mistakes here and there. But when our mistakes make our communication more confusing, that is the worst. We often waste time clarifying what we meant because of a simple slip of the tongue.
The next time you write a business e-mail or work on a presentation, take a moment to carefully proofread your messages. Read aloud and look for things that seem doubtful or that you have misspelled. This will also help you appear more reliable in the eyes of others.
5. Be aware of body language
Are you aware of all the ways you communicate nonverbally? Body language conveys our interests and emotions as much as words. In addition, facial expressions can quickly let you know if you are interested in what you have to say.
Next time you have a chat, watch your nonverbal cues: can you lean in, nod at what the other person is saying, or give an encouraging smile? If you do this regularly, you will find that many more people like you.
Here are 10 more magical tips for getting people to like you:
- Ask questions about the person’s passions and interests.
- Share stories about yourself
- Have a sense of humor and show that you enjoy having fun.
- Give and receive constructive feedback
- Be generous, but don’t let people take advantage of you.
- Remember people’s names and their pronunciation
- Have proper hygiene
- Recognize the achievements and value of others.
- Be a good listener
- Use positive body language and make eye contact.